Wooden wedding - the first important milestone of living together

Wise were our ancestors, they came up withit's a wonderful tradition to celebrate the anniversaries of the wedding every year, each anniversary having its own name, connected with the subject-symbolic everyday and existential world. Thanks to this tradition, each new year of family life acquires a profound psychological and philosophical meaning, in addition, guests invited to the anniversary get rid of the complex search for gifts, and the family with every new year of life acquires the necessary economic tools, and this is another aspect of this tradition - Utilitarian. A wooden wedding is a five-year and very important milestone for a family life together. In the psychology of the family, a five-year term is the period of the next crisis of relations, having overcome that and having acquired a certain life experience, the spouses begin a new round of joint life, where crises already happen much less frequently. Why a wooden wedding? What is in this title?

The tree in all mythologies and religions hasa deep symbolic and mythological meaning. Like a man, a tree lives and develops in three ways. Its roots go to the earth, it is firmly connected with the past, the trunk grows and develops in the present, and the flowering crown is directed upwards, into the future. This is not a symbol of life, a model of being, where the past, the present and the future are firmly united in a single whole. For many people, a tree is a symbol of fertility and vitality. Deciduous trees, each year losing foliage and again reborn to a new life, personify the victory of life over death, and evergreen trees have always been symbols of immortality. But in addition to symbolic significance, the tree was used at all times for the construction of houses, the manufacture of various utensils, it was the main source of heat, and its sweet and healthy fruits gave the person food.

A family that has overstepped a five-year term, likea young, already strengthened tree, firmly rooted in the earth, directs its forces to hardening and strengthening the trunk, i.e. present and development of the crown, i.e. future.

Five years of marriage is not a big one, but alreadynot a small period. The first most passionate and strong feelings, come to replace the more calm, but not less profound. A young family that strengthens and strengthens its family relationships and plans for the future should also remember one more important property of the tree, its flammability. How quickly the tree breaks from one spark, and how quickly it burns, turning into coals and ashes. Therefore, it is very important to keep your "family hearth", to support it, not letting it burn out overnight, leaving only the coals that have cooled down.

What is given for a wooden wedding? Traditional stories of this anniversary

The fifth anniversary of the wedding guests giveseedlings of trees, and their spouses plant them in the garden or in the courtyard of the house. You need to choose seedlings with meaning. Everyone who was born on this or that day of each month, according to the Druid calendar, has his own patron tree. Choosing a seedling, you can stick to traditional symbols. For example, the oak tree - a symbol of strength and family loyalty, birch - love and tenderness, maple - prosperity and financial well-being, fruit trees - symbols of health and longevity.

A wooden wedding has its own rituals. Some people on this day had a tradition to tie five ribbons on a tree branch in the forest as a symbol of five happy family years. A married couple took hold of their hands and walked around the great tree they liked, gaining strength and wisdom from him.

Guests on the anniversary give all kinds of items from wood: dishes, decorative crafts, furniture, etc.

Wooden wedding is the first important anniversarymarried life. If all the preceding anniversaries can not be celebrated, then the fifth anniversary of the wedding should be noted in the circle of close people and dear guests. After all, it is a step to a new stage of married life and personal relationships.