Ham - who is this? What is the origin and meaning of the word "boor"?
Each of us at least once in my life came acrossrudeness. None of this is insured: you can be rude in line for bread, in crowded public transport or from a car that has "cut" you. We are indignant: "Wow, what a boor!" And what do people usually put in this word? What is its true meaning?
Ham (or rudeness) - a phenomenon ubiquitous. Very often you come across this when you come to solve a problem in a state institution. One gets the impression that every second official is a boor, and that this is one of the main requirements when working for the state apparatus. Most decent people are lost before the pressure of such a person, sometimes not knowing how to respond to the inadequacy before them, so as not to lose their own face. Let's try to deal with this social phenomenon in order to be ready to give a worthy rebuff.
Who is a boor?
To begin with we learn the origin of the word "boor". What does it mean, where did it come from? Let's open the dictionary of Dahl. Here it is said that the boor is the abusive nickname of slaves, servants, lackeys, serfs. And in fact, before the nobility esteemed themselves far above ordinary people. In fact, many nobles looked at serfs as cattle. Although, if you understand by conscience, then often it was the other way around. Many noblemen behaved like real boors, and peasants represented an example of morality. Although there were exceptions.
Now open the dictionary Ozhegova and read: a boor is a man distinguished by rudeness and ignorance. This definition is closer to the modern understanding of the term. Although the meaning of the word "boor" according to Dal is not obsolete. Just the meaning of a little transformed. Now our society is split into two parts: small - these are oligarchs, positioning themselves as elite; and the big one is a simple people. In fact, nothing has changed: the "money bags", and in particular their offspring (the "golden youth"), who themselves have not achieved anything in life and live on everything ready, just like many years ago, believe that the ordinary a person is a boor, cattle and so on. However, the attitude of the rich to the poor is the topic of another article, so we will not focus on this. Well, the etymology of the word "boor" is clear, now we turn to the concept in a generally known sense.
And for this, let's figure out how else you cancall a person who has a similar behavior, in other words, try to find a synonym for the word "boor". Knowing the encyclopedic definition of this concept, it is not difficult to do this. So, boor - it's a rude, impudent, insolent, dork, ignorant, hamlo.
Computer Troll
Computer ham is a kind of insolent person andrude character. It distinguishes him from the "classic" boor cowardice. The computer troll hides behind the monitor, it is removed from its victim for many kilometers and therefore feels completely safe. As a result, such an individual completely opens up and pours out whole tubs of slop on his opponent. Often, the troll is not even aware of the topic at the forum, he will never read the author's article, but the first will write a comment full of poison and dirt. This is his finest hour, he gets indescribable pleasure.
Introduction to Homology
Agree, it is difficult to communicate with suchpeople. How to resist their pressure, how to protect themselves from the anger of such a person and at the same time remain in a good mood? In the modern world of varieties of boors - a huge variety. There were even such specialists as "hammologists" who are trying to create their own classifications. Despite the differences between the boorish people, there are certain common signs in their behavior, according to which it is possible to determine who is facing us. What are they?
Typical signs of boor
Much of a person can say his speech. So, the boor first of all gives out an abundance of boastful statements. He constantly challenges the people around him! In the boor's speech there is always unceremoniousness, even insolence. He contemptuously responds about his "rivals". Often in conversation he uses abusive and indecent expressions, familiarity, flat jokes, appeal to "you." Also for the boors characteristic of the denial of any social norms, they consider themselves higher, despise any rules, except their own. And at the same time, such a person demonstratively rant about human rights, which the "rival" allegedly violated, about dignity and honor. And this despite the fact that he himself these concepts are completely alien. Ham is always selfish, so he is able to defend only his "honor". These people are characterized by demonstrative behavior, they are always important and demonstrate it all with their own kind. Hearing about the emergence of a new "rival", they are always excited, are impatient and eager for a fight. Their behavior strongly resembles the habits of a cocky cock.
What is it for?
Normally, it may seem wild to a person,but with the help of rudeness, individual persons satisfy some of their immediate needs. If you accidentally in public transport step on the foot or push another passenger, then most often the victim reacts adequately - will accept an apology or do not pay attention to it at all. This means that there are a lot of normal people. But if you get a boor, then one such person is able to spoil the mood of all passengers. Why does he do this? If we analyze such scandalous cases, as well as their results, it becomes obvious that there is no talk of any kind of advocacy. A true boor does this for the love of the process. In doing so, he achieves several goals. Let us consider them in more detail.
Boorish benefits
1. First of all, this is the need for communication. Ham is often a very limited person with no intellectual interests. However, he needs communication, even at a primitive level of "trolleybus dismantling." The main thing is that for a time filled with spiritual emptiness. Any person needs emotional contact. Ham is difficult to attract the attention of the interlocutor with intellectual conversation, so he uses the weapons that are available to him - screaming, scolding, insults and so on.
2. The need for recognition. In the ordinary everyday situation, it is difficult for a ham to achieve approval due to a limited intellectual resource. But in the scandal, he bathes in the attention of others, even illusory. In a conflict with him they talk, they look at him, which means they recognize him. In this situation, the boor feels that he is not an "empty place".
3. Show your own superiority. In reality, a ham has a very low self-esteem. In the depths of his soul, he is always unhappy with himself. In life, he achieved very little. The abundance of complexes and low self-esteem prevent adequate communication with people. And if the inferiority complex is combined with ignorance, then there is no other way than rudeness. For such an individual, it is important to demonstrate that he is stronger, better than others, even in a quarrel. And if such a person occupies a high post, this does not mean that his self-esteem is high. Most likely, he realizes his limitations, inconsistency and sees no prospects. Therefore, to show their own superiority, the boor tries to humiliate the "rival". This is the main goal.
With this it is possible and necessary to fight
Let's figure out how to answer the boor and not lose your face. There are several options for responding to the attacks of such personalities.
1. The simplest solution is the use of the principle of "an eye for an eye", that is, rerun the ham. This method can be resorted only if you are confident in yourself and ready to enter into a verbal skirmish. In this case, you deprive the lout of a sense of self-superiority, you stagger him with the same weapon. However, this is far from the best way, because you yourself will be like him, and this does not paint you. Do not also forget that before you - a flawed person, he has already been punished, and he should live with it. In addition, it is necessary to understand that this development of events can turn into assault.
2. The next scenario is ignoring his attacks and impartial statements. However, this method will only be valid if you do it sincerely. If you can look at the boor in your eyes and see an empty space or wall, if you do not change in the face, then this will be an absolute weapon. In this case, he will choke on his own bile, and you will remain the winner.
3. The way to avoid conflict. Do not give in to emotions, treat the boor like a haggler or a preacher. Show that you are not interested. Not meeting the expected reaction, the person programmed for the conflict immediately switches, and in his soul remains perplexed, because the usual program did not work.
4. This path is usually followed by those who turn enemies into friends. To do this, one must realize how unhappy the person who wants to hurt you. It is necessary to treat a boor with sincere love. Very difficult, but possible.
Hams on the roads
In modern Russia, a new kind of rudeness -impudent driver. Taking advantage of impunity on the part of law enforcement agencies, some well-off and powerful motorists imagined themselves almost tsars. They do not comply with the rules of the road, do not let pedestrians pass, pass a red traffic light, "cut" other drivers, park on the sidewalks. Today, this behavior takes on a mass character, but any action causes opposition. And now in Russia there was a public organization, which calls itself "Stopham".
Conclusion
This article can not be considered complete, if notmention another fact - the biblical. Widely advertised Christian righteous Noah (the one who escaped during the Flood) once, not calculating his strength, fell asleep in his tent.
And so, in his misfortune, the son of Noah Ham lookedfor some reason in a tent and saw his father - we quote - "drunk and naked". No, to keep silent, so he went and told him about what his brothers saw, and those - like faithful sons - told Papa about it in the morning. As a result, the righteous Noah cursed Ham. This is such a strange thing, but we do not judge him. Noah is a righteous man, but who are we? ..
